The Twin Life Prepared… Pregnancy Edition



It’s Mama-Bear here…

The amount of twin pregnancies I have heard about recently is amazing.  Seriously.  Watch out, world- the twins are coming!

I figure why not start my “be prepared” list?  Which is comical, because let’s be honest.  Nothing.  I repeat, NOTHING can prepare you.  Did I want twins?  Nope.  Did I get excited once I found out there were two?  Absolutely.  And I was a nerd.  Every forum, google page, in-person group, Facebook group I could join-I joined.  I needed to know it all.  Have control.  But maybe that’s why the twins are here in my life… to show me that I have no control.  Zilch. Zip. Nada.  Talk about a wake up call.

So let’s talk pregnancy.  What can you expect?

THE UNEXPECTED- You can plan it all.  Go for it.  Just know it won’t go the way you planned.  The whole control thing?  Not going to happen.  These two little beans will completely control your life… not only for the pregnancy… but beyond as well!  No two pregnancies are the same; every multiple mom will tell you that.  Don’t worry about the stories you hear.

THERE ARE TWO-  So if you’re like me, twins were never a thought.  They were never a possibility in my mind.  Imagine my surprise at my second ultrasound when I was told “Well, it still might be too early to see both of their heart beats”.  Ummm… what?!  I was preparing for #4 and quickly learned… in a matter of seconds… that I had to be prepared for #4 and #5.  Acceptance is the first major hurdle.  It will definitely seem surreal some days, even if you were trying for two (or more)…

THE DOCTORS- Most likely you will not only continue to see your OB, but you may possibly start seeing a MFM, as well (Maternal Fetal Medicine, or high risk doctor!).  If you do- be prepared for the ultrasounds.  Super fun to see the babies all the time but super stressful with every measurement and hoping that all is ok.  The most amazing moment was when we saw them trying to hold hands through the membrane that separated them!

THE BATTLES- as in the sibling battles that start in utero!  Seriously- they go to town on each other.  One usually ends up pushing the other one into the corner somewhere (because there’s not a lot of places to push them).  Mine went at it so much, Grif Grif actually came out with blue lips!  The nurses first thought he wasn’t getting oxygen but we figured out the blue mark perfectly matched his sister’s heel! Tiny but Mighty.

THE EVER-GROWING BELLY!- I think that the belly starts showing before you even know you are pregnant… or before you even know there are twins!  BAM! There it is!  No hiding it.  And it is breathtaking at the end to realize that there are two babies actually in your stomach growing.  And then you start to panic and wonder how your skin will ever go back after stretching so much!  There were time I actually thought my stomach could not stretch anymore.  But it could.  And it did.  And its still recovering.

THE ACHES AND PAINS- I don’t know if it was because I was older or because of the twins.  But it was not like the other pregnancies.  The heartburn started earlier, the breathlessness (because really, where do your lungs go?).  The hips, the back, you name it.  Its not pleasant.  Then there’s the contractions that start early.  Just your body’s way of preparing, they said!

THE HICCUPS:  Well- maybe not every twin pregnancy- but mine had hiccups every night at the same time- and never with each other!  Man- it was surreal feeling it.  Both on their own rhythm but both at the same time.

THE QUESTIONS:  Do twins run in your family?  Did you do IVF?  Are you serious?  How  many kids do you have?  There’s really no preparing for them and no avoiding them (unless you don’t tell people you are expecting two!) There are some pretty creative responses out there, but I always loved the conversation starter.  People are obsessed with multiples.  Be ready, because it won’t change.

THE WORRY:  Seriously- the worry was intense.  I wish I could have blocked Dr. Google from my phone.  Every little thing sent me into a panic.  The nurses knew me by name.  My doctor was used to my calls.  Instead of one to worry about (which is a ton of worry), now there were two.  We had trips to the hospital- one that resulted in me staying for a few days longer than planned.  Some twin pregnancies are there awhile or even most of the pregnancy.  It may seem difficult at the time, but it’s worth it in the end.  And they are used to the calls and the questions.  It will be ok.


I will leave you with a to-do list (from some tried and true multiple moms)

  • Join a Multiples Club!  Google Search can be your friend here!
  • Take naps- its ok.  (aka- take care of yourself)
  • Be humble and accept help
  • Pack your bag and be prepared for their arrival by 24-26 weeks
  • Educate yourself- find a doctor with experience and find a level 4 NICU
  • Go do all the things- it may not be as easy once they make their entrance!
  • If you will be going back to work- start looking for childcare early.  Placing two is not the same as 1
  • Enjoy the ride!  Life is about to be VERY different!




you might be a toddler if…

Hey- I’m Knox- I’m 3.  Maybe you remember me.  Its been a while since I’ve been able to write about life as I know it… so here I am.  Back again.

Its been so long since I was able to sit down and write that I should fill you in on a few things.  First of all- I’m 3 and in preschool and loving every minute of it.  The twins- yeah, they’re still around and they are 2 (and craaazzzyy).  Didi (Lucy) is in 5th grade and Charlie (Aiden) is in high school now and I LOVE hanging out with him and his friends.

So this post is all about me.  Yup, just me.  Thought I would fill you in on a few of my favorite things to do:

  1. TAG-TEAM:  Many of you know I used to like to pick on the twins.  Especially Grif (only because he cries all.the.time).  But its crazy.  One day it just happened.  I realized Grif was bigger than me.  And he bites.  And he can fight back.  So I don’t pick on them (as much… let’s be honest… I still do, sometimes) and instead I have learned that I can get a lot more accomplished if there is more than just me.  So I recruit them.  Like when I need to reach the fish food on the shelf, or dump toys and electronics into the fish tank, or get food or candy I’m not supposed to, or fill up cups of water and dump them on the floor… you get it.  It definitely helps having power in numbers.  The twins are pretty helpful when it comes to this stuff.
  2. PAINT: I’m super good at painting.  Painting with paint, water, play-doh.  I paint on paper or walls.  Anything works, really.  Play-doh on walls works really well (and I guess is super hard to get off of walls- who knew?)
  3. HAMSTER HELPER: Didi got a new pet.  I want a pet too.  Mom says no.  So instead, I try to help Didi as much as possible with her new pet.  Her name is Ginger.  Didi keeps her door locked now so I can’t get in to check on Ginger anymore.  I used to check on her while Didi was at school, and one day Ginger looked lonely so I got her out to play with her and she just ran away.  She came back to dad though and crawled into his hand, which is good.  I was worried.  But ever since then- I’m not allowed in Didi’s room.  So now I have my own pretend Hamster named Ginger that I take care of (though she isn’t as fun as the real one).  She lives in one of mom’s bird cages on the shelf and I like
  4. FISH FEEDER: So Charlie has a bunch of fish in our house and I’m really good at feeding them.  Fish are hungry.  A  lot.  So I feed them as much as I can, whenever I can.  I even put in some toys and XBOX remotes one day for them to play with, but mom wasn’t happy.  Have you ever tried fish food?  Its not that bad.
  5. OUTDOOR EXPLORER:  Being outside is my favorite.  I love being outside.  I love to go for walks and see new things like the diggers at the end of the street and talk to my next door neighbor Mr. Franklin.  He’s one of my favorite people.  He has a cane and just laughs at whatever I say.  I told my mom I want a cane like that for my birthday.  I also can open doors now and have tried to go for a walk a couple times on my own, but mom doesn’t seem to think that’s a good idea.
  6. SUPERSTAR: I guess mom and dad used to like to karaoke a lot.  So mom set up their old karaoke machine in our basement and it has TWO WORKING MICROPHONES!  Griffin and I are really good at singing duets.  Our two favorites right now are Happy Birthday and Go Cubs Go.  Do you know how loud it can get when him and I are both yelling into the microphones?  So loud.  Its awesome.  We also have some pretty intense dance parties and Whitney is a really good dancer.


So those are just a few of the things I like to do to keep me busy.  I love my family and love hanging out with my older siblings and get super excited when dad comes home from work.  The twins are ok, but still get in the way sometimes… ok, they get in the way a lot.  And even though my mom gets upset sometimes, I love snuggling with her and giving her lots of hugs and kisses.  She loves snuggles (and taking deep breaths and reminding herself that this is all a phase and that it goes by too quickly).




Knox’s Top 10

Well its been awhile since my mom has let me update this thing.  Can’t imagine why.  The twins are on the move.  And by “on the move”, I mean “tag team partners that climb, fall, walk, run, roll, hide, and move… sometimes together…but usually in opposite directions making it entertaining to watch mom and dad reel them back in”

See, its funny… they think they are big.  Like me.  They aren’t.  But I let them think they are.  So they copy what I do.  Which never ends well.  Griffin usually ends up in tears.  The kid is always crying.  I take great pride in knowing exactly what to do to push his button.  It really doesn’t take much.  Sometimes just a quick chase down the hall is enough to bring the tear flowing.  Mom gets mad.  Thankfully the kid hasn’t figured out he is as big as me yet.

Whitney- well- I try not to mess with her.  She’s some kind of crazy.  I try to do the same things to her that I do to Griffin, but then usually I’m the one that ends up crying.  Embarrassing to admit, but its true.  Mom and Dad keep saying she’s tiny but mighty.  And they say she’ll beat anyone up that tries to mess with Griffin.  Thankfully she hasn’t tried to beat me up yet.  I mean – I could totally take her…right… totally…  Anyway- she feisty when she actually lets dad put her down.  Its crazy… she has dad wrapped around her finger.  He literally tries to set her down for two seconds to do something and she hits the floor like an angry elf and sure enough, he picks her right back up.  Her game is on!  Maybe she’ll give me lessons…hmmmm….

Charlie and DeeDee (you know them as Aiden and Lucy) are probably the best big brother and sister ever.  They let me hang out with them and do big kid stuff.   I help Charlie feed his fish and get to sit in DeeDees room with her and watch TV.  They say its so I don’t get in trouble from mom.  I think its because I’m a cool kid and they just want to hang out with me.  I watch out the window every day for them to get off the bus and miss them when they aren’t home.

So because its been so long- I’ve decided to make a Top 10 list of sorts.  The Top 10 things in the Hard-Knocks Life of Knox right now:

  1.  The Pantry.  Not only is it stacked with food, but now mom and dad only keep the food on the top shelves and the bottom shelves are totally empty.  Don’t worry.  I figured out how to climb it.  (as are all the other shelves that are low to the ground in our house… all empty… hmm… wonder what’s going on).
  2. The Front Door.  It opens.  I can open it.  I can open it half naked and run down the sidewalk.  I run fast.  Have you ever seen mom sprinting frantically down the sidewalk chasing a half naked boy?  You should.  Its funny.  (Hint: best time to attempt this is when she’s in the middle of changing a messy diaper…trust me…I know)
  3. The Toilet.  I can go on it.  When I want to.  Its a really fun guessing game for mom and dad.  Whitney’s starting to mimic me.  Dad thinks she will be potty trained before me.  That’s what he thinks.  I’m really potty trained.  I just like to make life interesting.
  4. The iPad.  Mom lets me watch it a lot when she’s “working”.  Fine with me.  There are these great songs about Mommy Fingers and Daddy Fingers that I listen to on REPEAT!  They’re the best.  And the videos with kids opening up toys.  Genius.  Kids open toys.  That’s it!  And they’re all over YouTube.  All day.  Every day.
  5. Mud.  And Rocks.  And Dirt.  And Ants.  And Worms.  Worms are my favorite.  I save them when it rains.  But you shouldn’t eat them.  That’s gross.   I tell everyone.
  6. Naps.  Mom wanted me to write this so I remember this one day.  She has Griffin and Whitney and I all taking 2 to 3 hour naps at the same time.  Of course, its when the babysitters are here and mom is at work.  But she seems to think this won’t last long and wants me to remember when I loved naps.
  7. My Birthday.  Mom keeps saying its coming up.  She’s been saying that for awhile.  I’m having a Captain America Birthday party with a very specific invite list and a chocolate Batman Cake.  I just keep walking around singing Happy Birthday until it actually happens.
  8. Chocolate.  Except I never get it anymore.  Mom says I’m crazy when I have chocolate.  I love chocolate.  Chocolate’s my favorite.  And sugar.  Does syrup have sugar in it?  Then yes.  That’s my favorite, too.
  9. Stroller Strides.  Mom started a new company and we get to go workout with her.  We sing songs while the moms work out.  I play games and eat a lot of snacks.  I love yelling really loud when she’s teaching (I actually love teaching the class but she won’t let me) and then as soon as class is over, we talk about how it was such a fun Stroller Strides class.  Griffin, Whitney and I each have our own stroller at home, so we get to have our own classes when get home.  I have a lot of muscles and can do a lot of pushups.
  10. My family.  I love to play with dad, wear his baseball hat, and ride in his car.  Mom gives me snuggles and takes me outside.  Charlie lets me feed his fish and hang out with him building trains.  DeeDee watches out for me and tries to keep me from getting into timeouts.  Whitney is alright.  She thinks I’m funny and laughs at me as long as I’m not picking on her.  And Griffin is alright too.  He’s finally not a baby anymore and will play with me now.  But he still cries a lot when he doesn’t do what I want and I have to hit him or take a toy away to get him to listen. But he will learn one day.  I do love to make them all laugh.  They think I will be the class clown… like my dad.

Life as a big brother to twins is hard… but someone’s got to do it.  Hopefully mom will let me on here some more so I can keep you all up to date on them and all their craziness.